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Self-love vs. Narcissism, Part 1

What's the difference between self-love and narcissism? Many people confuse the two, but they're quite distinct.


Self-love is about acknowledging your worth, taking care of your own needs, and not sacrificing your well-being to please others. It's about not settling for less than you deserve. According to research by Neff, Kirkpatrick, and Rude (2007), self-compassion, a crucial aspect of self-love, is associated with psychological strengths such as resilience, optimism, and curiosity.


On the other hand, narcissism involves an inflated sense of self-importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and a lack of empathy for others. Narcissists tend to become self-absorbed to the point where they disregard the feelings and needs of others (American Psychiatric Association, 2013).


So, fear not! Embracing self-love doesn't make you narcissistic. It makes you a healthier, more fulfilled individual.


In fact, self-love is a vital component of healthy relationships and life success. According to research by Proctor, Linley, and Maltby (2009), individuals with high self-love tend to have better mental health, more satisfying relationships, and higher levels of achievement.


So, remember: Your needs matter. Your feelings are valid. Your growth is important.


Mental Health Therapist, Kateryna 💫



Please note: This post is for general informational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your mental health professional or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition.



References:
American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (5th ed.). Arlington, VA.
Neff, K. D., Kirkpatrick, K. L., & Rude, S. S. (2007). Self-compassion and adaptive psychological functioning. Journal of Research in Personality, 41(1), 139-154. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jrp.2006.03.004

Proctor, C., Linley, P. A., & Maltby, J. (2009). Youth life satisfaction measures: A review. The Journal of Positive Psychology, 4(2), 128-144. https://doi.org/10.1080/17439760802650816